“All people dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their mind, wake in the morning to find that it was vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous people, For they dream their dreams with open eyes, And make them come true.”
– D.H. Lawrence
Dreams…ambitions…passions…inspirations…motivations. Whatever you might term them, it has become increasingly and abundantly clear to me that they are an immensely powerful force to be reckoned with. They are all encompassing and once they firmly take hold, can add new meaning to one’s life.
Little has made this point more poignant to me than the birth of my daughter Camryn, who came into this world ten and a half months ago. In the months leading up to that wonderful day, I had been preparing myself for the responsibility of being a father. Nothing though, had prepared me for the overwhelming joy that would surge through my body the moment that she wrapped her little hand around my finger for the first time. It was a good thing that I was already sitting down, otherwise it probably would have brought me to my knees.
Every moment prior to this one, seemed insignificant in comparison. It was a joyous instant, that was intense and satisfying. It was also a moment that brought with it great clarity. My life up to that point, all the things I had done, were meaningless. All that mattered from this moment forward was this tiny little girl and doing all that I can to be a good father and role model. My new path was a simple one: Be the best Dad that I can be.
From the get go, this has been a girl on the move. She is strong willed and refuses to sit still for more than just a moment or two (qualities that she comes by quite honestly, getting them from her Mother and I, respectively). She loves to explore and play, and the mischief in her eye is never more than a twinkle away. Simply put, she lights up my world. But look at that face…how could she not?!
When I look at her, I see not only a cute little face, but a world of possibilities in front of her. I want to do everything I can to empower her to take that world on by storm. I want to teach her that dreams and ambitions are important, and she has it in her to tackle those dreams head and full force. In our house, she will never hear the words “you can’t be that.” If she wants to be an astronaut, I will believe in her. If she wants to be President, I will believe in her. If she wants to play in the NHL, I will believe in her.
And world, let this be a warning to you. If anyone, and I mean ANYONE, ever does anything to cut her dreams down, they better be ready for a firm finger to the chest from your’s truly.
So let’s steer this bus back in the direction of Regular Guy Brewing.
To be the best father, and best example, I can be for my daughter, I feel the need now…more than ever…to put up or shut up. I want to teach by example. If I have a dream, how can I not pursue it? I owe it not only to myself, but to this tiny bald cutie.
Regular Guy Brewing is my dream. It is my ambition. I want my daughter to grow up and know that her father is a man that grabbed his dreams by the horns and wrestled them into submission. I know of no better lesson that I can teach this little girl.
Will it be hard work? Absolutely, but that’s nothing that scares me. And through that hard work, Camryn will learn that you have to work for your dreams. That’s not a bad lesson either.
Are we guaranteed to succeed? Certainly not. But again, victory is not the only reward. Through our efforts, I hope that she will learn that it’s better to dream big and fail than to have no dreams at all and settle.
Or to quote a friend of mine, “I’d rather aim at the stars and miss than aim for a pile of shit and hit.”
Ultimately, I want this little girl to grow up without fear of dreaming or trying to achieve those dreams. I want ambition to drive her and passions to motivate her. If these are the only things that I teach her, I feel I will have done a pretty decent job as her Father.
Time to go to work. There are lessons to be learned!